13 june 2012 > 6/15 > Lovers/Devil
Hi there. thanks for your visit. Todays invitation and mini interview is with The Lovers. I may have to pick just one for the chat. It could kinda busy with them both talking at once.
My idea around interviewing the cards is to give you some idea of how I imagine they are in a sort of ‘real life’ moment. The essence of them get shared for you to think about how the ‘energy’ of them might related to your life, your moments. And as you consider what might be essential to the card and the small identity I define for them here, you can take for yourself a piece that might empower you in your life. Within these tarot Archetypes live much of our own stories. How do you want your story to go?
Aren’t you two just so cute. Are you always so ‘together’?
I suppose that depends on which day or moment you meet up with us. It’s hard work to be us. Hahaha.
Are you saying that being Lovers, being in intimate relationship is really all that kind of hard work?
Are you kidding? OH Ya… We work to be this cute. It requires great honesty and deep trust to share a life together. Lots of sharing and conversation. Making appropriate agreements that might work for one and not the other and revamping the agreement. Not avoiding our feelings. Let’s see what else… not getting enmeshed in each others in ways that we are so mingles with each other that it’s hard to separate who’s who. Making sure our personal, inner relationship within ourself is solid and clear and that we don’t need the other to be a Whole person. Bringing our ‘Wholeness’ into the relationship rather than
“OH look, there’s someone lacking and I can bring what they lack into the relationship and they can be whole because of me” NO… Two whole, conscious people, coming together cause they like each other and have commonality, and want to be together. In other words, We work on our personal selves so that we can bring to this relationship our complete, honest, integrity. Believe me some days are better than others. Hahaha.
Wow. I know what you mean when people get all enmeshed with each other and you don’t know whos who and they aren’t even separate individuals anymore. What is something that gets in the way of you flowing well together?
I’d say that when I’m not flowing well within myself, like not talking about my feelings, holding in, or not addressing that I’m not feeling OK for whatever reason; that can lead to confusion within me and with my partner. Or maybe, I’m busy doing, and giving all the time and forget to do and give to myself. Also, talking about scary things that need talking about. Old history that has nothing to do with my sweetheart, and it gets triggered by an incident and withdrawal happens cause I’m scared and unsure of what that all means. Stuff like that.
So you have to rise above your fear cause your relationship within yourself and then the relationship with others can be damages in some way.
yes, that can happen. It’s not like you have to share every little niggly thing that annoys or flows over you. There are some things that are mine and I don’t have to share them. And… If you’re going to be with someone and even more importantly; have a good relationship with yourself that honors your self esteem, and honors your journey in life, then you have to communicate. Cause if you aren’t liking yourself for any reason, it’s likely that that will interfere with all your relationships sooner or later.
Absolutely. Any closing relationship words?
Love yourself. Be as good to yourself as you would be to another. Kinda the Golden Rule of life taken inward. All your relationships, good, bad, fabulous, whatever… give you information about how you can be the best self you can be. Always be, feel, express, your best and highest self. Let Love move you to action.
Thanks you two. Now go and relate. lol.
As always…If today is your birthday, these are questions to consider for the whole year. Grab one or all and see what stirs you up. Change the wording around to make it feel right for you. As you ponder these thoughts and questions, please take a moment to sit quietly and breathe. Let your breath guide you into a quiet place for the questions to have a moment to brew and shimmer. Invite your wisdom to be your guide. And remember, if overwhelm sets in, take a very little step. You have as much time as you need.
QUESTION TO PONDER
How do you sustain harmony and balance in your life?
When do you notice that you have ‘giving yourself away’ and there isn’t enough for just you?
If the ‘Devil made you do it’, what would you have done otherwise?
What patterns rise for you when life is going well and balanced, and you get restless to stir the pot up by creating disharmony? Why?
How do you make sure that you are taking care of yourself as well as others?
How does the ‘be-devilment’ remind you of who you really are?
How do you trick yourself into believing the unbelievable?
How will you nurture your relationships in a healthy way?
How do you make friends with your devilish side?
What would you like to do differently from your usually pattern of caregiving that still feels like you are giving and receiving?